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Arguments and misunderstandings, these are common issues in any relationships. No relationship is perfect, every now and then there are bouts of misunderstandings that arises, a couple of jealous remarks and heated conversations once in a while. This is understandable. This is common trait in every relationship, no matter how educated couples are, how civil, and how much they want to settle things amicable. Dispute and misunderstanding happens in every relationship and that is perfectly normal, once in a while.
However, men and women are complex people with differences. Both are unique species with special ways of dealing things, especially arguments.
Women are the type to settle arguments the moment it arises. When you’re arguing about something you need to clear things right there and then. That is how women. They want to settle things as soon as possible and clear the air with whatever animosity or indifference there is between the couple. However, the same is not true to men.
They want to let time pass, let things cool before tackling the subject again and talk about the issue. As much as possible they want to avoid the nagging, the shouting that will get both of you nowhere. When two people are engaged in a intense argument, chances are the two aren’t listening to each other and would end up in a much complicated situation. Thus, men opt to retreat while women chose to engage further with the issue.
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There is no exact formula unto how one person will successfully find his/her Mr/Ms Right. However, I noticed that most successful relationships involve one dominant and submissive partner. Either the guy is the submissive peace-maker who keeps things cool; apologize despite not being the one at fault and making a relationship work or the dominant party in the relationship. If you realize that you’re a dominant type, you need one who compliments you by finding that one particular person who contains your dominant manner.
That one person who can bring out the best in you and balance you, helps you become a person who knows that a relationship is a give and take state of affairs. This is why, if there is one particular person you are interested in, it is important that you get to know him better and better each time by starting off as friends. Have you noticed how your friends just let their guards down; show their real personality, attitude with no pretense? Even if that particular “friend” of yours is faking things, tiny bits of information will be able to tell of what kind of person he/she is. You can’t pretend 24/7, but there will be a time a person’s true personality will show, and thus in this phase you grasp whether or not you will be able to accept his flaws, love his flaws and be in a relationship with this guy for a long, long time.
If you’re the submissive type, an introvert who is on most part is a giving person, kind and understanding with great sense of patience, you need one who will be able to bring the sociable nature in you, out in public. You need one who doesn’t stay in their grey zones or comfort zones, but one who try to take risks (with sufficient pre-cautions of course).
In any relationship it is important to find that right person who compliments you. His weakness is your strength; her strength compliments the ones you’re lacking.
No matter how true, and nice you are as a friend, there will always be that one friend you consider closer than a sister who will end up betraying you, once in your lifetime or maybe a couple of BITCHfriend. They're once your bestfriend, whom you treated and loved closer than your sister and yet betrayed you, seduced your boyfriend.
She was that one person you thought was helping you and your partner patch things up, but is actually the one destroying it. For reasons we are not aware of. Maybe she liked your boyfriend and want him for herself or maybe she's just looking for thrills and she feels insecure about you. :P Lots of reasons and your bitchfriend will be the only one qualified to provide the accurate answer..
How will you know your current friend may turn to be a traitor? It is easy. Her history, her fast relationships and connections will be able to tell you whether she is a bitchfriend or a bestfriend. If she was history of betraying her friends trust and not feeling bad or sorry about it then chances are, she'll do the same with you. :) Don't trust a friend to patch things up between you couple. In the first place, it should be the gf/bf who must think of something, come up with ideas to clear and patch things up. If you keep on trusting things like this on your friend, you'll be dependent and you're not certain he/she won't snatch your boyfriend away from you given the opportunity.
This may not be applicable to everyone but this is in general. There are true friends in this world who'll stick with you through thick and thin. Through the good and bad times... and they're limited edition. :) Thus, it is important to be vigilant. :) Not saying that you should be paranoid, however, trust your instinct. :)
You're stuck because you're in denial. Deep within you you're hoping that he/she'll realize that it was a mistake breaking up with you and you're waiting for the day he wakes up. I wonder when YOU will wake up. There is around 7Billion people in the world and you're waiting on someone who never asked you to wait or waiting for someone to wake up and come back to you but are you sure he's not wide awake already? There can only be two possibilities with this assumption. Either he will come back or you're going to wait and hurt forever. So what if the first possibility happens? No chance of re-uniting? You'll still wait? Realize that every beginning has an end. Either it ends in epic fail or it ends with you two tying the knot and exchanging vows. However the chance is slim. You'll need to go through all kinds of obstacles before you're able to get pass bf/gf relationship and get married, after marriage there is another set of obstacles to face.
Then, how can you move on? STOP WAITING. Accept the fact that he's far far away with some fairy tale princess which was never you and that he's gonna make a happy ever after with her and not you. You'll need to move on. You lived for a decade or two without him before so, whats the difference now that you're without him/her?
After a break-up, you experience a jet lag. You feel dizzy remembering just how things you cared about for the last few months ended just like a hurricane.
The person you spent your time thinking about every second of the day suddenly has decided he doesn't love you no more and he can't continue being in a relationship he is not happy anymore, the usual line. Now, people doesn't even have the guts to tell you "we're through" vis-a-vis.
Well, thanks to the ever going forward tech gadgets we have nowadays. It is difficult for the new generation these days to actually get off their mobile phones or PC just to tell someone that they're not happy anymore and tell it like a man, face to face. What can you expect even courtship these days take only hours and so relationship seems to be shaky? They spend more time text-ing each other, than, being with one another. Presence is more satisfying that the sweet "I love you's" your lovie-dovie sends to your mobile phone daily. What d'you knows he might be mass messaging it to a group of his girlfriends? Haha.
The break-up aftermath is somehow earth shattering than the break-up scene itself. Only by that time you actually realized that you have lost something you truly care about... someone really special. No one to send you flowers on your birthday, no special dinner date during Valentines and Xmas day, no more monthly anniversary, and no more special person whom you can call your own.
Well, that sure sucks...but you need to move on. He is probably happy somewhere while you're sulking in bed crying your tear ducts dry. In my next post I'll tackled best methods to move on from a bad break-up. =)
And they really work.
Why wouldn't it happen? When people are quite the obsessive type nowadays. They obsess on just about anything. They can't balance things, and focus on much important issues.
In a relationship, the couples love could either be too much or too less. The other person love him/her than the other one. Or the other person doesn't care about love but care bout sex, while the other was thinking of a fairy tale romance and not getting it.
It is most important to find out just what kind of a relationship you need, and you currently have. By the way, not most people take time to sit and think about their relationships rationally. They usually have this tinsy bitsy hallucinations in between. Like just how Cinderella-ish their love story will be in the distant future. How about try living today work on the relationship realistically for a better future.
If you're relationship keeps ending in an epic fail then there must be either something wrong with you and your love or, you're not paying attention to your relationship enough. Either you're obsessing 24/7 and starting to nag like a wife, or you're just having a passive boring relationship of 'you do your stuff I do mine' relationship type.
Not every people notice the changes in their relationship every month. Like if its growing, its stagnant or there is progress. A stuck up relationship would end up in epic fail. It must grow and couples need to explore on how they can grow together, make the relationship even better and avoid conflicts before it even burns a whole Forrest.
All it needs is a little of sensitivity, ears and emotional intelligence to work a relationship out.
In arguments we usually hear this lines being used. Lines like "YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND ME" despite you explaining the whole damn thing in details. But is this really the issue? That the other party can't understand your sentiments, refuse to understand.. or is it because they're just not listening well?
Most probably than not, it is the latter.
Today people are used to listening only to themselves.
What is the effect of women independence in our modern day? Due to this independence, women can freely choose or opt to murder their own child whenever she deems necessary. Its her body, her decision. Especially if the father of the child refuses to take responsibility, the child is flushed down the toilet through the help of abortion pills and other abortion drugs.
That is just awful. If you didn't want this kind of responsibility you should pledge abstinence. Reality check: there is no such thing as safe-sex cause if there is, there is no need for abortion. Safe-sex is all in your head. :x Its the wrong assumption that caused teenagers to disregard chasteness and impregnate most teeners and committed abortion along the way.
According to recent studies, teenagers nowadays commit suicide every minute. @_@ I say; give your child a chance to live and its up to him/her if she decides to take her own life away and waste it. You don't need to stain yourself with the blood of an innocent child. Whom in the first place came to existence because you did the "act" with some irresponsible stranger.
Its not fair that the child has to pay for your mistakes. If you're not ready for the responsibility at your age, I'm sure the child is not willing to die at such stage. I don't think "that" living thing inside of you, your very own flesh and blood is yet ready to be flushed down the toilet without even feeling the warmth of the sun or witnessing a beautiful sunrise or experiencing the first gulp of polluted air :)
Simple Pregnancy Math for every girl out there: No Sex = No Pregnancy Sex = Pregnancy
So don't be surprised if you find yourself pregnant. It is no surprise, especially if you indulge yourself on premarital activities. :3
(Pro-Life)
Dear Couples, Engaged and soon to be married, or just got married... Please do understand that weddings or tying the knot with your special beloved one is not the last chapter and page of your life's book. It is actually the first page and chapter of a new beginning. Although we can view marriage as the last page of your single life, it is the beginning of a new life with your other half.
If you have spent the last 20 years of your unmarried life overcoming obstacles from childhood to adulthood. Struggling to pass each year's painstaking school exams and overcome school related stress, your marital life is similar to that as well.
You will be facing different type of obstacles along your married life, in where everyday, weeks, months and years of it is spent, you will need to overcome and pass major marital tests which is not only for yourself but for your other half and future kids.
Whether we like it or not, as a married person (i'm single. never married. LOL) especially on the women's part, being a mother (provide child care) and a wife is an exhausting career and responsibility that you need to perform inside and outside marriage.
You don't have any other option. If you don't want this type of commitment and responsibility, please take time to re-think your decision. You're probably making the wrong decision.
Hello, Deztiny here. I am not new to blogging.
This is my 2nd personal blog with blogspot. My first one is a mix of personal journal and earning opportunities I found online.
Friends usually ask me for advice about a lot of things. Mostly about their relationship and marriage. And so I have decided to create this blog. I'm no guru, but so far they think I'm the best person to approach to when it comes to this matters.
If you have questions or would like for advice you can leave your e-mail in my comment area.
Would love to help everyone else.
Well, hope you'll enjoy my website.
Hope ya stick around... :3
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